Break-ups can be devastating, but there is light at the end of this shitty tunnel. Exploring a foreign country alone can actually help kickstart the healing process, but we suggest waiting a couple of weeks after calling it quits with your other half before taking this soul-searching trip. Book your ticket when the waterworks no longer feel like a constant occurrence and you’re in a much calmer state of mind.
People Can’t Heal Your Pain
Relationships are personal, and nobody can help fix the heartbreak you alone are experiencing. External stimuli like partying with friends or downing alcohol (and then drunk dialling your ex) only serve as momentary distractions that won’t solve the problem. A quick getaway gives you time to sort your thoughts out alone and start your healing journey from within.
Learning To Tackle This Sudden Change
Break-ups can cause a sudden lack of security in your life – especially if you've been with your partner for a really long time. Taking a solo trip and digging deep to rediscover your sense of self is one of the fastest ways to get yourself back on track.
Having functioned as a unit for so long, it's only natural to feel like you're a little lost now that you're on your own. But that doesn't have to be terrifying at all. In fact, it's an excellent opportunity to recalibrate your personal boundaries and rediscover what it is you really want as an individual moving forward.
Being immersed in a foreign environment provides inspiration and motivation to kickstart this new life. You have all the time in the world to think about the future you'd like for yourself, noting down new goals you wish to achieve. This exercise helps you regain control of both the situation and your emotions, providing you with a sense of empowerment. It immediately puts you in a better position to deal with your break-up.
When you find the strength to stand on your own two feet, it makes being alone much less daunting. You may even end up revisiting the break-up and acknowledging that maybe choosing to be apart was the right choice.
You Won't Have Time To Dwell
Holding yourself up after a break-up sounds extremely tempting, doesn't it? But we all know it does more harm than good. Being on a vacation prevents you from constantly free-falling into a blackhole of negative thoughts.
Fill your holiday with new and novel activities that can lift your spirit. Doing them will remind you that you're still capable of feeling joy and excitement, and that the end of a relationship doesn't equate to the end of the world. There's still much to see and experience, and you can enjoy all of it even if you're alone.
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Making Friends Along The Way
More often than not, travelling in a group drives away all opportunities to make new friends. Being a solo traveller pushes you to start conversations whether it's in your hostel or out on the streets. Since it's highly likely you'll be swapping personal stories somewhere along the line, it can be cathartic to relay your break-up story to someone you don't personally know, getting purely objective advice in return. Maybe hearing about their own experiences can even lead to the discovery of perspectives you didn't initially think about.
Although being in a foreign land alone can seem like a terrifying concept when you need support more than ever, it's thrilling to see what you can achieve independently and how, at the end of it, you know you're okay on your own. Your healing journey begins here